We wrote this post for The SafeworD/s Club but felt it would be good to share here as well, as it is useful information. As i always say, safety first! If you are interested in learning more about safety online, in scenes, and in general, or other kink related topics, consider joining us for chats at the link mentioned above. Check out the calendar there for more information.
When you initially go online to meet new people, it is easy to get sucked into the belief that everyone wants to be nice, and is generally good. This is a mistake- here is why:
-Possibility of ID theft
-Possibility of catfishing
-Possibility of blackmail or otherwise personally harmful incidence
-Invasion of privacy or personal life
The BDSM community is already shrouded in secrecy and identity concealment, and a majority of the vanilla world will not accept or understand the dynamics we exist in. By going online, and creating accounts, you are taking a risk that the people you meet are trustworthy. And while a majority of the people we have met have been generally kind and fun, we have met our share of unstable, and dishonest individuals. This leads us to some ground rules for creating online profiles, and making friends online.
These are mere guidelines- overall you need to use common sense. And this is not to say that all interactions should be met with suspicion. Just remember to protect yourself.
When you make friends online, and you are trying to get to know them, there are many red flags you can look for when ascertaining their authenticity. A few are listed below:
What you can do if you suspect a catfish:
Remember: NOT ALL PEOPLE ARE CATFISHES. Most aren’t. This post is merely to help you identify red flags, and advise you on steps to take in those instances. Have fun and be safe!